Safety Means... ...being protected from his violence everywhere she goes ...having her children with her and being able to keep them safe ...being heard and believed ...being supported in her decisions ...having a home and the things she needs to support herself and her children ...not having to explain what she did to survive ...having the time, space, and support to regain power and control over her life ...not having to justify what she wants and needs ...accurate information about battering, oppression, her culture, and resources ...knowing it's not her fault ...not having to be perfect to be protected or respected ...being able to walk her path without barriers or fear ...being treated as a woman, not sick, crazy, a case, or part of the "problem" ...being treated as a relative

Accountability Means... ...law enforcement and the legal system enforce the law, regardless of the relationship ...the batterer can't manipulate the system to control her or blackmail her into returning ...stopping him from being violent to her in any way ...stopping him from using child visitation or custody to frighten, harass, or assault her ...stopping him from intimidating her, including in court ...stopping him from using his friends or relatives to frighten, harass, or assault her ...he is confronted about his violence and held to the consequences ...he is held to the consequences of his actions, even if she isn't liked or approved of ...people model behavior for him by showing her respect, compassion, humility, and providing her with support and resources. ...treating him as a relative who can make changes, but is responsible for his actions.